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Gordon Neufeld on Sibling Rivalry: Sibling rivalry is a very common problem. By treating our children as equals, we think we’re doing them a favor, but the attachment processes don’t work this way. If you help matchmake one to be the answer to the other, they move to take care of each other, to help each other, rather than compete with each other. And if we got those kinds of things right, we would have much less problems with sibling conflict and rivalry. Find courses and free resources from Go
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Gordon Neufeld on Sibling Rivalry: Sibling rivalry is a very common problem. By treating our children as equals, we think we’re doing them a favor, but the attachment processes don’t work this way. If you help matchmake one to be the answer to the other, they move to take care of each other, to help each other, rather than compete with each other. And if we got those kinds of things right, we would have much less problems with sibling conflict and rivalry. Find courses and free resources from Go
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Dr. Gordon Neufeld on empathy: "Empathy is the fruit of caring. It is a spontaneous outcome if conditions are conducive. That's the part that should be our focus and concern." We invite you to watch this four-minute preview of our new online offering, The Natural Roots of Empathy. Dr. Neufeld traces empathy to its natural roots in attachment, feelings and development. After years of putting the pieces of the empathy puzzle together, he presents his two-factor model for the development of empathy
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Dr. Gordon Neufeld on empathy: "Empathy is the fruit of caring. It is a spontaneous outcome if conditions are conducive. That's the part that should be our focus and concern." We invite you to watch this four-minute preview of our new online offering, The Natural Roots of Empathy. Dr. Neufeld traces empathy to its natural roots in attachment, feelings and development. After years of putting the pieces of the empathy puzzle together, he presents his two-factor model for the development of empathy
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Why Some Kids Seem Bossy | Dr. Gordon Neufeld on Alpha Children More and more children today are presenting as bossy, prescriptive, and demanding — what Dr. Neufeld calls alpha children. Behind this behavior is often an alpha complex — a child attaching by taking the lead, rather than resting in our care. If you’d like to learn more about this dynamic, Gordon Neufeld has unfolded it in a 4-session course, Alpha Children: https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/alpha #alphachildren #parenting #attachmen
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Why Some Kids Seem Bossy | Dr. Gordon Neufeld on Alpha Children More and more children today are presenting as bossy, prescriptive, and demanding — what Dr. Neufeld calls alpha children. Behind this behavior is often an alpha complex — a child attaching by taking the lead, rather than resting in our care. If you’d like to learn more about this dynamic, Gordon Neufeld has unfolded it in a 4-session course, Alpha Children: https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/alpha #alphachildren #parenting #attachmen
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Our deepest drive isn’t survival — it’s togetherness. In this clip, Dr. Gordon Neufeld explains emotion as Nature’s way of taking care of our most basic need: attachment. When something goes wrong, our first impulse is to seek our people — Where’s mom? Where’s dad? Where’s my family? — even if it means moving toward danger rather than away from it. Emotion, in his words, serves attachment. It rises most strongly when separation is faced and works to close the gap between us. When we see behaviou
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Our deepest drive isn’t survival — it’s togetherness. In this clip, Dr. Gordon Neufeld explains emotion as Nature’s way of taking care of our most basic need: attachment. When something goes wrong, our first impulse is to seek our people — Where’s mom? Where’s dad? Where’s my family? — even if it means moving toward danger rather than away from it. Emotion, in his words, serves attachment. It rises most strongly when separation is faced and works to close the gap between us. When we see behaviou
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Dealing with Misbehaving In this video, Dr. Gordon Neufeld addresses one of the most common questions parents ask: what to do when a child misbehaves. He explains that most problem behavior is rooted in instinct and emotion, so it’s ineffective to battle the symptoms. Instead, the guiding principle should be to do no harm—to preserve the relationship and the child’s dignity. Neufeld emphasizes the importance of “bridging” after misbehavior: reassuring the child that the relationship is intact be
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Dealing with Misbehaving In this video, Dr. Gordon Neufeld addresses one of the most common questions parents ask: what to do when a child misbehaves. He explains that most problem behavior is rooted in instinct and emotion, so it’s ineffective to battle the symptoms. Instead, the guiding principle should be to do no harm—to preserve the relationship and the child’s dignity. Neufeld emphasizes the importance of “bridging” after misbehavior: reassuring the child that the relationship is intact be
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FREE event with Dr. Gordon Neufeld & Heather Ferguson — November 24th at 11AM PT - Register at NeufeldInstitute.org/taste How do we give a child a firm, non-negotiable no while also offering the warm, soft landing their emotions require? This is one of the core challenges of parenting with attachment in mind — and one of the themes we’ll explore together. Together With Celena Krahn, Heather Ferguson will be leading Power to Parent I: The Vital Connection starting this January. Dr. Neufeld and He
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FREE event with Dr. Gordon Neufeld & Heather Ferguson — November 24th at 11AM PT - Register at NeufeldInstitute.org/taste How do we give a child a firm, non-negotiable no while also offering the warm, soft landing their emotions require? This is one of the core challenges of parenting with attachment in mind — and one of the themes we’ll explore together. Together With Celena Krahn, Heather Ferguson will be leading Power to Parent I: The Vital Connection starting this January. Dr. Neufeld and He
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“Aggression is one of the most misunderstood behaviours.” – Dr. Gordon Neufeld Children don’t strike out because they mean to harm. As Dr. Neufeld explains, aggression often shows up when a child is up against something they cannot change. Hitting, biting, tantrums, and outbursts point to frustration that has not yet found its way to futility. The movement from mad to sad is the key. When tears of futility can come, the attacking energy subsides. Until then, the behaviour tells us the child is f
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“Children must never work for our love. They must rest in it.” - Gordon Neufeld. Many of us have made the same mistakes. We have said things like: "I can’t be your friend if you’re going to be like that. Off to your room. I withdraw the invitation to exist in my presence…" Everyday interactions like this can place children in charge of preserving the connection. Too often, they find themselves working for the relationship—holding on when that role was never meant to be theirs. The restlessness t
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Join leading expert in attachment, Dr. Gordon Neufeld, at our spring conference as he walks us through The Dance of Attachment which explores the pivotal role attachment plays in our everyday lives, and how we can support our children in building strong, secure relationships. | Institute of Child Psychology
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Why it’s profound This was said by the incredible Gordon Neufeld. He was speaking about our children of course and how healing and important their sadness is. We are meant to feel sad and cry our tears sometimes. Children instinctively know this and they will get to the point of shedding tears as a way to get back to feeling themselves. Parents are often so fixated on happy and wanting our kids to be happy that we will fix their sadness. Parents will do anything to get their child out of their t
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“We have been using what children care about against them. We’ve been calling it consequences.” When Dr. Gordon Neufeld speaks about attachment, he reminds us that the real purpose of attachment is as a delivery system for care. When a child feels deeply attached, they naturally feel their own caring — no lesson needed. But for generations now, we’ve routinely used what matters most to children against them: taking away what they love, threatening disconnection, calling it “discipline” or “conse
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“For transplanting to be successful, children need to adopt their new ‘parents’.” — Gordon Neufeld When children experience a change in who is raising them—through adoption, fostering, step-parenting, loss, or changes in custody—their attachment roots are inevitably affected. Even when these changes are made with care and good intentions, the developmental impact can be significant. This clip is from Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s course 'Art & Science of Transplanting Children'. In this course, Gordon Ne
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Why do teenagers pull away — and how do we tell the difference between healthy independence and something that puts development at risk? This is the dynamic Dr. Gordon Neufeld unfolds together with Dr. Gabor Maté in their book Hold On to Your Kids. For a deeper unfolding of this topic, Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores it fully in his course Making Sense of Adolescence. Adolescents are in the in-between: no longer children, not yet adults. They need us — yet often resist us. The course explores the se
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"When we lose our playfulness, we're in trouble. Children need to play, adults need to play. We have become a work-oriented society, an outcome-based society. When a child plays a game only to win and doesn't enjoy the activity — that is no longer play, it's work." — Dr. Gordon Neufeld True play isn’t about performance or outcomes. It’s expressive, not evaluative. It creates emotional safety and freedom — not pressure to succeed. But in today’s culture, true play is vanishing. In his course Play
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The most powerful force in parenting is invisible — and yet everything depends on it. In The Vital Connection, Dr. Gordon Neufeld unfolds the central insight that changed his work: parenting doesn’t hinge on techniques or strategies, but on the relationship a child has with the adult responsible for them. This course was created because our culture no longer protects this relational foundation. We have to make the invisible visible — to give words, understanding, and direction to the very contex
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We've lost the ability to ritualize life, to save our energy for other things. - Dr. Gordon Neufeld
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Play has become an endangered activity - Dr. Gordon Neufeld
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Relationship Matters | Dr. Gordon Neufeld | TEDxWestVancouverED
119.5K viewsNov 15, 2016
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Alpha Children Preview Video
13.2K viewsMar 15, 2017
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Adolescence and Sexuality Preview Video
10.1K viewsJan 1, 2018
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The Truth About Yelling At Kids - Gordon Neufeld, PhD
85.2K viewsMar 6, 2014
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The Essential Nature of Play with Dr. Gordon Neufeld
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How to Help a Child with Impulsive Behavior - Gordon Neufeld, PhD
51K viewsSep 22, 2014
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Are Time-Outs An Effective Form Of Punishment? - Gordon Neufeld, PhD
28.7K viewsDec 13, 2013
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The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power: Gabor Maté at TEDxRio+20
4.4M viewsOct 9, 2012
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How to Develop Good Attachment with your Child - Attachment Parenting
94.9K viewsSep 20, 2013
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Screaming at Kids - Why it never works: Dr. Gordon Neufeld.
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Dr. Gordon Neufeld on empathy (3 min)
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Gordon Neufeld: what makes a bully?
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