Why do anxious and avoidant partners attract each other?Anxious attachers crave closeness and validation, while avoidants fear intimacy and tend to withdraw. Ironically, the anxious person is often drawn to the avoidant's independence, seeing it as a challenge to win them over. Meanwhile, the avoidant might be attracted to the anxious partner's emotional intensity, even if it feels overwhelming at times. This creates a push-pull dynamic that can lead to frustration and emotional distress. But wh
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Why do anxious and avoidant partners attract each other?Anxious attachers crave closeness and validation, while avoidants fear intimacy and tend to withdraw. Ironically, the anxious person is often drawn to the avoidant's independence, seeing it as a challenge to win them over. Meanwhile, the avoidant might be attracted to the anxious partner's emotional intensity, even if it feels overwhelming at times. This creates a push-pull dynamic that can lead to frustration and emotional distress. But wh
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That feeling when you are less anxious and you go with the go with the feeling. #anxiety #selfcare #accountability #safety #selflove | Marriage Doc
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That feeling when you are less anxious and you go with the go with the feeling. #anxiety #selfcare #accountability #safety #selflove | Marriage Doc
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Are you in a relationship with someone with an anxious or avoidant attachment? Here are some tips to help you navigate this dynamic: 1 - notice triggers & how you react to them. 2 - apologize/make amends when you need to. 3 - practice self-soothing to combat negative internal beliefs. 4 - accept the parts of your partner that don’t harm you, & find ways to help them feel safe with you. #marriage #attachmentstyle #traumahealing #marriagecoach #couplegoals #marriagegoals #avoidantattachment #anxio
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Are you in a relationship with someone with an anxious or avoidant attachment? Here are some tips to help you navigate this dynamic: 1 - notice triggers & how you react to them. 2 - apologize/make amends when you need to. 3 - practice self-soothing to combat negative internal beliefs. 4 - accept the parts of your partner that don’t harm you, & find ways to help them feel safe with you. #marriage #attachmentstyle #traumahealing #marriagecoach #couplegoals #marriagegoals #avoidantattachment #anxio
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5 ways someone with anxious attachment shows love. All of these things from the perspective of someone with an anxious attachment may seem harmless, but many times they are doing these things to soothe the anxiety they feel about their partner being away from them, being upset with them, or the fear that they may leave them. Many of us anxious attachers have a fear of abandonment that usually comes from our childhood. We were emotionally or physically abandoned by our caregivers and were left fe
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5 ways someone with anxious attachment shows love. All of these things from the perspective of someone with an anxious attachment may seem harmless, but many times they are doing these things to soothe the anxiety they feel about their partner being away from them, being upset with them, or the fear that they may leave them. Many of us anxious attachers have a fear of abandonment that usually comes from our childhood. We were emotionally or physically abandoned by our caregivers and were left fe
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As an anxious attachment married to a person with an avoidant attachment, we completely understand feeling like the anxious is doing all the work, emotionally. It took a few years of practice for Doug to realize that feelings aren't a threat to his emotional safety. This goes all the way back to childhood when his attachment style was formed in a screaming household (watch our video on that one if you haven't yet). For him, emotions became something to fear and avoid out of self protection. Nowa
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As an anxious attachment married to a person with an avoidant attachment, we completely understand feeling like the anxious is doing all the work, emotionally. It took a few years of practice for Doug to realize that feelings aren't a threat to his emotional safety. This goes all the way back to childhood when his attachment style was formed in a screaming household (watch our video on that one if you haven't yet). For him, emotions became something to fear and avoid out of self protection. Nowa
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In most cases the partner with the anxious attachment and the partner with avoidant attachment have opposing needs during a conflict. When you and your partner aren’t seeing eye to eye on your needs, focus on creating safety for one another instead of getting closure on the issue. The closure will come once safety is present. Hope this is helpful. If not, let us know how we can provide more clarity for you. #marriage #attachmentstyle #traumahealing #marriagecoach #couplegoals #marriagegoals #avo
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In most cases the partner with the anxious attachment and the partner with avoidant attachment have opposing needs during a conflict. When you and your partner aren’t seeing eye to eye on your needs, focus on creating safety for one another instead of getting closure on the issue. The closure will come once safety is present. Hope this is helpful. If not, let us know how we can provide more clarity for you. #marriage #attachmentstyle #traumahealing #marriagecoach #couplegoals #marriagegoals #avo
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Is your relationship lacking emotional safety? Do you have an avoidant or anxious attachment style? Check out these tips on how to handle this dynamic. If you are interested in learning more, we talk more in depth about this in our online course. #marriage #attachmentstyle #traumahealing #marriagecoach #couplegoals #marriagegoals #avoidantattachment #anxiousattachment#defensiveness #toxicrelationship #marriageadvice #lovelanguage #empathy #relationship#communication #relationshipcoach#relationsh
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Does your partner get anxious when you get anxious? Do they take your anxiety personally, and think it’s about them? This response makes processing and moving through your anxiety even harder because now both of you are anxious! It’s NOT a helpful response! When you experience anxiety, it’s most helpful for your partner to remain grounded in a calm state. Stay tuned—this week, I’ll post videos showing the best ways to respond to anxiety. #anxietyresponse #staygrounded #calmstate #anxietyawarenes
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The Anxious attachment style can make communication tricky. Commonly, the anxious person operates out of fear of abandonment, making it difficult to pause during a hard conversation. Here are a few tips ➡️ If you are the spouse, be very reassuring of your love and commitment. This will cause the anxious spouse to be a bit more calm about taking a break during a disagreement. ➡️ If you are the spouse that is a bit more anxious, we encourage you to explore the trauma in your background that create
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Feel like they are always ignoring you? Stonwalling you and avoiding teamwork, connection, and conflict resolution? They most likely have a wound of overwhelm and a likely dissmissive avoidant attachment. The wound of Overwhelm is 1 of 8 wounds in Inner Work Theory found in our book, The Inner Work of Relationships. When someone has this wound they tend to avoid emotions and seclude in order to feel safe. They rarely ask for help with life and often feel annoyed and insecure when their partner a
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For the avoidant attachment styles in the room! Here is a way to love your partner with an anxious attachment, from the perspective of someone with an anxious attachment. These are just a few things that work for us. To an avoidant, reassurance can be triggering. It’s something that can feel very uncomfortable because it’s a muscle that hasn’t had much exercise yet. The avoidant has the tendency to take things personally, meaning, they may feel that reassuring their partner is an admission of fa
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This right here 👌🏻 One of the hardest things to accept in a marriage is that your partner’s actions may not always match your expectations for feeling secure and prioritized. ✨But here’s the key: Two things can be true at the same time. For example: ✅ “You might feel like you’re not being prioritized because you need more reassurance than your partner realizes, and at the same time, your partner may feel like they’re doing their best to show up for you.” This doesn’t mean your feelings are wro
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