Helping a child process loss or trauma is a delicate balance. It can be easy to err on extremes of pushing them too hard or not addressing their feelings sufficiently. Our job isn’t to read their minds and know the perfect thing to say; our job is to be present, undistracted, and providing a safe space for them to express their emotions at their own pace. A few practical suggestions to aid this journey: For toddlers, it can be helpful to focus on bottom-up regulation strategies— those are activi