The problem with the lack of mainstream models for healthy polyamorous relationships is that people often don’t know what standards to expect. Many mistakenly believe that being in a polyamorous dynamic means accepting whatever they get and that being “progressive” equates to being content with less. However, the foundational elements of a healthy relationship remain the same, whether it’s monogamous or polyamorous. You still need consistency, a certain amount of time to build a secure attachmen

Top tip: if you’re polyamorous, do NOT go to your monogamous friends for relationship advice. 99% of the time, they will view your situation through a mononormative lens and blame polyamory for all the problems you experiencing, or express confusion about why you are “putting yourself through this” when it would be “so much easier” to just go back to monogamy. There are some monogamous people who are open minded enough to think beyond such a narrow world view where all your problems could be fix